Mama with DeDe Drake
DeDe Drake of Michigan was a mother of a toddler when she was diagnosed with Triple Negative breast cancer at 39. In this episode DeDe reads her essay “Mama” from Wildfire Magazine’s 2024 “Family” issue.
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Embracing Support
In this episode, we explore a theme that resonates deeply with many young breast cancer survivors: the delicate balance between giving and receiving care during challenging times. Our guest, DeDe Drake, shares her heartfelt story of navigating motherhood while grappling with her own health crisis, shedding light on the crucial role that support from loved ones plays in the healing process.
As she reflects on her experience, she expresses a profound hope for her daughter: “I hope that my beautiful girl didn’t inherit the BRCA1 gene mutation. I hope she never has to endure a terrifying health crisis and require the kind of looking after that I have. But if she does, I will be there for her.” This sentiment beautifully encapsulates the duality of being both a caregiver and someone in need of care.
The Importance of Receiving Help
DeDe emphasizes that asking for help is not a sign of weakness or shame. “There are seasons of healing,” she reminds us, highlighting the importance of allowing others to see our vulnerabilities. Recognizing that it’s okay to lean on loved ones during tough times can be transformative. Just as she found strength in her mother’s support, young survivors can also benefit from the understanding and compassion of those around them.
Her mother’s presence during this unexpected chapter of their lives added a layer of humanity to the cancer experience. “I’m really grateful that I had that support,” she shares, illustrating the deep bond that can form when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
Cultivating Grace and Connection
In sharing her story, DeDe highlights the importance of grace — both for ourselves and for others. “It’s giving fellow humans grace to let them see us in that space and hold us and support us.” This idea resonates powerfully, reminding us that vulnerability is a shared human experience. By embracing it, we create deeper connections and foster an environment where healing can thrive.
For young breast cancer survivors, navigating the journey of illness and recovery can feel isolating at times. Yet, as we’ve heard from DeDe, reaching out for support can lead to profound moments of healing and connection. Remember, it’s not just about being strong; it’s about allowing others to be there for you, just as you would be there for them. Whether it’s your mother, friends, or support groups, don’t hesitate to lean on those who care about you. Together, we can create a network of strength, compassion, and love.
Writing Prompt Inspired by Today’s Episode
Set your timer for eight minutes. Write without stopping or editing.
The help I need right now is …
Write without stopping. See what needs to come out and where it will take you. Happy writing. Until next time, take good care.
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